The Pleasure Project
30 days of pleasure
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What would happen if every day you spent a little time and energy on pleasure?
When I ask people that question I often hear a lot of reasons about why it’s too hard. There’s no time for pleasure. Pleasure feels too extravagant. Pleasure feels selfish. And sometimes people share the they feel so disconnected from their pleasure they don’t even know where they would start.
How would your life be different if you really slowed down and savored the things that feel good?
Imagine it. What does life feel like when you are present and connected to your pleasure? Sure there will still be things that feel overwhelming or stressful or even bad. But even while things are bitter, can you also find some sweetness? And if you do engage with that sweetness, what happens to your life?
What would it take for you to give yourself permission for pleasure?
It’s easy to feel pleasure when you are on vacation. It’s easy to feel giddy when you are falling in love. It’s easy to feel excited when embarking on a new adventure. What about finding ways to connect to your pleasure during your regular old mundane life?
Why Pleasure Matters
Every day I talk to people who ask, “Is this it?” They'll talk about how their life looks good on paper but in reality it feels like something is missing.
I talk with people who are trying hard to keep it all together. Who are checking things off their to do list and trying to make all the right choices and yet, feel empty under their skin.
I talk with people who are overwhelmed. I talk with people who are numb. I talk with people who are burnt out and feel like the things that used to bring them joy are now obligations.
I talk with people who want to enjoy sex but instead treat it like another task.
And most of these people have strong ideas about pleasure. Most of us have strong ideas about pleasure. We think it's silly or frivolous or extra. Even I, someone who deeply believes in the power of pleasure, have felt judgment about my focus on pleasure. Are you really going talk about pleasure when the world is on fire? Yes, I am. Because I know how beautiful pleasure makes the world. I know that when you have a relationship with pleasure, it not only shifts your life, it shifts how you show up in the world.
The more you cultivate pleasure and your relationship to it, the more you will see that there is so much pleasure around you all the time. And don't even get me started about sex! When you start noticing and engaging with smaller forms of pleasure regularly, it also turns up the volume on sexual pleasure.
Pleasure won't erase pain or frustration or sadness, but it does make those things more bearable. And it makes life more beautiful. In The Pleasure Project we will explore finding small things you can do regularly that make you smile or shimmy with pleasure. And then pretty soon it won't feel like such a stretch to plan bigger pleasure celebrations. Soon, even though life is still hard or sometime boring, you’ll begin to see how incredibly beautiful it all is and you won’t want to miss anything. Not because of fear of missing out, but because you understand that it's a gift. Being able to feel good is a gift and you don't want to waste it.
How it works -
Sign up and you will receive 30 Days of Pleasure Prompts!
A month of emails delivered directly to you that will help you plug into your pleasure.
Each email will focus on a different facet of pleasure.
We’ll explore –
Simple pleasure
Pleasure and Sensuality
Giving Yourself Permission for Pleasure
Pleasure in the Mundane
Pleasure in Play
Finding Pleasure in Your Work
Pleasure for Your Body
Pleasure for Your Heart
and more…
Your emails will include stories, videos, journal prompts, activities, tools and ideas for you to explore. They are designed to inspire and also be a catalyst for you to become more active with your pleasure.
The first email goes out October 1st and you will receive one email about pleasure every day for 30 days.
My Pleasure Story
Pleasure is one of my core values. It’s something that I truly believe will not only change your life, but it can also change the world.
But pleasure didn’t always come easily to me. I grew up in a place and a culture that truly believed “no pain no gain” and “what doesn’t kill me makes we stronger.” I live in a culture that glorifies busy-ness and hustle culture and thinks pleasure is frivolous or even selfish.
And then in my early 20s I went to Paris for the first time. And I know it sounds cliche but there I truly fell in love with pleasure (and with myself). I felt like Dorothy in the Wizard of Oz when she lands in Oz and the world is in technicolor. That initiation changed how I connected to food and beauty and sensuality and pleasure.
In the last 20 years my therapy practice has specialized in relationships, intimacy and sexuality. Pleasure has been a huge part of that work. I’ve also lead classes, workshops and retreats and most of that work has centered around pleasure. Pleasure is the thing people get most excited about when I talk about it and it’s also the thing that seems to scare some people. And I think that’s because we have such mixed up ideas about pleasure.
I have spent decades reprogramming myself and my relationship with pleasure and even I can get off track sometimes. I can get overwhelmed by the intensity of the world (especially now). So I created this pleasure project for all of us. 30 days of pleasure. 30 days of practices and prompts. And it’s only $30.
Pleasure is not selfish or frivolous, pleasure can help make you more resilient.
The older I get, the more I see that for me, pleasure is a way of life. The more I engage my pleasure, the more my heart opens. The more connected I am to my pleasure, the grander I feel. The more I open to pleasure, the more space and capacity I have for challenging things. Pleasure enriches my life and also gives me reserves when things are difficult.
30 days of pleasure for $30
Pleasure takes practice. That’s why The Pleasure Project is a full 30 days. I want us to see what it’s like when we show up to pleasure again and again.
Pleasure takes commitment. The Pleasure Project will encourage you to commit to your pleasure, honor your pleasure and prioritize your pleasure.
Pleasure takes presence. Receiving a different email every day will help you stay present with your pleasure rather than distracting or numbing out.
How would your life be different if you were reminded of pleasure and encouraged to enjoy it?
You are worthy of pleasure and enjoyment!
I’m going to commit to 30 days of pleasure and I hope you will join me.
Who is this class for –
Anyone who is ready to feel more pleasure.
It doesn’t matter if –
you are in a relationship or single.
you are super busy or a have a lot of time.
you are a parent or don’t have children.
Pleasure is for everyone. And this class is for anyone.
I’m making it simple. Pleasure doesn’t have to be complicated or expensive or time consuming.
The Pleasure Project is not only an invitation to bring more pleasure into your life it is also going to show you places pleasure already exists and help you slow down and savor it.
For $30 you get 30 emails about pleasure! And each email will be full of information, activities and tangible things you can do to enjoy more pleasure in your life!
The more you learn about what pleasure is and all of the small ways you can connect to it regularly, the more it will enrich your life.
